The addictive nature of being on the move

Dublin City on The Liffey - Simone Walsh

I have never been a 'finisher', and an old business teacher of mine in school described me as a 'bit of a walter mitty' to my mother in a parent-teacher conference one particular year. I'd always leave stories half-written, and I'd draw pictures of people missing an arm or a leg. I was also always asking questions, and once I'd discovered the answer to one, I'd soon grow bored of my newly discovered tid-bit of information, and ask another. It would get to the point where I realized conversations with me were just turning into a string of questions on my part, and a very worn out mom answering to the best of her knowledge. 'What is the meaning of life?' was one I pondered often. Eventually I reached a conclusion that I proudly announced in the back seat of the car one day: 'maybe we are fast forwarding and rewinding at the same time' I declared. The car erupted in laughter, and the fact that I came up with a 'tape recorder' inspired conclusion to the 'meaning of life' made me swell with pride.

Somewhere deep in my core I just knew I was not cut out for a straight forward life, where everything turned out as planned. To say I had ADHD would be an overstatement, but to say my nerves and emotions were always stable would be an extreme overstatement. I was always itching to create, discover and explore. I suppose I was doing this in an effort to 'discover' myself. I was always on that journey most people had completed many years previous. So, now at 29 I am still trying to 'find' myself, and what better way to learn about how you fit into this world than to meet half the people who in habit it? The good, the bad, and the downright crazy.

And so, I began staying in tourist hostels in 2013, when my granddad first started losing his memory, and I was unable to live with him any longer. I stayed in all the tourist hostels around town, and upon arriving back after several weeks, I realized that it had had a profound effect on me. I met so many unusual characters I would have otherwise never known existed. One which stood out was a Venezuelan guy, who wore an enormous fuzzy coat every single day, and spoke to me for hours while we swung on hammocks in the 'hammock room'. He would re-iterate how 'dyoo are crazy' whenever I'd go on a mad tangent about my life. I then distinctly remember not seeing him for several days, and then having him suddenly appear at the reception again claiming he just arrived 'back from Norway' where it was 'fucking cold'. He went up there to have sex with a Norwegian girl he met in the hostel. So, when I arrived back home, I realized that life was boring, and I found I was turning to the murky world of online chat rooms to fill the void. Deep inside, there was a longing within me to go out into the world and find stimulus. I just wasn't expecting to find it as soon as I did. If you read my earlier blog posts, you will see why I got myself into the situation of homelessness, and I don't want to get into the details. However, needless to say, my emotional instability drove me to it. And this time, I didn't check into hostels since I was 'over' all that, and I associated it with the brand new mess I 'd created for myself.

So I started ringing the free phone and saving myself a few bob a week. I spent three months like that, ringing the free phone nightly, and sleeping in dorms full of people who'd spent every last scrap of their money on drugs. Little did I know, I'd spend four long years of my life within the system, dealing with addicts on a daily basis. Now, I've moved three times since I finally got a room of my own, and I'm back in tourist hostels again. In fact, I'm in the same tourist hostel now as the one I met the Venezuelan guy in, back in 2013. Very little has changed, apart from the fact that I'm a bit cooler, and I have aches and pains in places they weren't before, and there has been a complete over haul of people. I do not recognize one face; not even behind the reception desk. This was an unusual experience for me, and physically highlighted to the me the ebbs and flows of life. I also came to the conclusion that I was going to 'fall in love with and marry a Frenchman' after an extended gaze into the eyes of a random French man who was sleeping in the bunk bed bellow me about a week ago. After living in a shared apartment for a few months with two different sets of people, I realized after month number one, I'd start to feel the itch to be surrounded by interesting people again. Now there is one man in this tourist hostel who has 'met enough interesting people in his day' and makes a point of looking glum when greeted with a 'hello!', but even he, like it or not, is working his way into my list of interesting people, as I am into his. I'll admit, meeting every single person on earth does suck the mystery out of life to a point, but the fact will always remain thus: even if you spend the rest of your life shaking new people's hands (taking rest and sleep into consideration) it would take you roughly around 500 years to complete. Needless to say, we will never live that long so there is always an infinite amount of connections to make, especially in places like tourist hostels, where there is literally every type of demographic on earth.

To conclude this long and rambling blogpost, much as I complained and cursed my homelessness, in a way it has always been part and parcel of who I am. Once I got an itch for it in 2013, it didn't go away. Sure, I have an obsessive personality anyway, but my brain lacked stimulation at home, and I wanted to do as much exploring as I could without the money to finance it. Plus, Dublin is basically the biggest tourist hot-spot in Europe, so I'm bound to meet someone completely different to me. Moreover, it is the city of my birth and the single place on earth I am likely to have more in common with the locals than anywhere else in the universe. What better place to explore?

Assimilating back into normal society

I DESERVE THE VERY BEST!

So, I've been out of the homeless system for over three months now. However, I have had to move twice, and I am now moving for the third time. The first time I moved, I was living with a little Bangladeshi man who was manipulating me, so I left and went back to the hostel. By the way, I'd just like to mention that it took losing my aunt for me to pluck up the courage and stamina to actually get the fuck out of there. It was the final straw for me. It really did take me losing a close relative, and that's because my confidence was knocked so low by all the people who put me down (even if it wasn't meant) while I was on the streets, in various hostels, and by staff, that I felt like all I deserved was total shit. It actually took losing a loved one, for me to realize that I was actually waiting for that to happen, for me to actually move on. It would be the only way for me to feel like I deserved a roof over my head, and that is fucked up, and I am never doing that to myself again! I deserve a roof over my head, food in my belly and loved ones by default, simply for existing. However, when you are being called a 'stupid cunt' on a daily basis and you have no one to stick up for you or tick those people off, you begin to believe it. Eventually, I decided that I was worth nothing more than a sewer rat (I was literally sleeping in the gutters anyway at that stage, so it's no surprise). I am now moving for the third time since the guy I'm living with is a neurotic piece of crap who keeps insisting I cannot walk around at night since it 'wakes him up'. I am sticking my ground, and leaving, since at 29 years old I refuse to tip toe around a place I'm paying 550 euro per month for!

My self esteem is rising again, but it's annoying that it is only doing so because I lost a relative. I wish I would have gotten out of the homeless system before it started messing up my already low self esteem!!!!

The inner workings of a homeless girl

                                                    

I've been in this hole for a year and a half now, pathetically. I have no idea how my so-called 'loved ones' expect me to live like this for so long with no support? As I mentioned before, I have no access to any other residence apart from that dank room. I have now been technically 'homeless' for over three years, and I've had the stark realization that genuinely nobody really gives a shit about me, apart from my grandmother. She's the only one who has ever expressed genuine concern. Of course, if my grandfather could remember me, he wouldn't let me live like this for a second. And thanks to our symbiotic relationship, his presence alone would've been my cure. But that's not the reality, sadly. The reality is that I have a father who can't see anything wrong with getting an ugly fat man to kick his daughters back in and smash her face into the ground until she's crying, and a mother and extended family who have no qualms about me in this circumstance. I'd like to believe some of them care, but to be honest the fact that they haven't expressed any real concern for my well being all this time, really shows me their true colors. I've lost a lot of respect for them, that will be extremely difficult, if not entirely impossible to regain. I've had to endure punches to my head, ten nights sleeping on the streets, getting in numerous horrendous threats, waking up to a needle in my face. I have lost count of the amount of times I've seen someone stick a needle into their arm, and then fall into a heap on the bed. And my mother, sits back and doesn't reach into her pocket once. She is basically just an older more cankerous version of the bully mother she was when I was kid. As far as I'm concerned, she's never changed. She's still the same old bully, trying to manipulate and break me in every way possible if given the chance. I thought she'd ease off in my adulthood, so I started to trust her more to do the right thing. That was a massive mistake! Just as my energy to constantly stick up for myself begins to wane, she hits me with total negligence...and now look what I've had to endure, in my mid fucking twenties! If I don't blatantly scream at her, to the point where I have to give her a dig, she won't give a fuck. She'll laugh it off, sweep it under the rug, and blame me for all the bad things that has happened in my life, and takes absolutely no responsibility for me, as a parent. She's been brainwashing me with this shit since I was a kid as well. She'd always tell me that I 'loved' being beaten up, as I'd get a hug after wards. Then she'd tail that off (every time) by saying how I'd end up marrying a man who beats me. No surprises there, I did end up with such a charmer! She'd also continuously tell me that once I turn 21 she'd 'wash' her hands clean of me. According to her, raising a child and being a mother stops at 21. Her plan was always then to just 'live her own life', and let me fend for myself. What an ignorant belligerent attitude coming from a woman who lived with her own parents (with me) until the age of 41. However, she certainly stayed true to her word, blatantly dating, moving in with an now marrying, a man I have absolutely no concern for. In fact the only man she has decided to introduce to me is the only man I have ever met that I specifically told her I never want her to date. I suppose she thinks their being rebellious against me, and getting with him anyway, as if they are some kind of star crossed lovers or some shit like that? But the fact of the matter is, it is another way for her to bully me without hitting me, because yes I grew up, and learnt how to defend myself. I put a report into the police about her for child abuse. Because, everyone is a grown up child, and as far as I'm concerned, what she's putting me through now, is no different to what she did to me growing up, except it's gotten a lot more complex. I have no doubt that she is a clinical sociopath and sadist, and karma is going to bite her in the ass one day, and I'm not going to do a thing to stop it. The sad thing is that apart from my grandmother, she's the only one who acts loving towards me. She acts like she has all my best intentions at heart, and sends me text like 'I still love you, and always will'...as if I'm the one who's committed the heinous crime, by sleeping on the streets. Oh wow...a mother loves her daughter...does she want a bloody medal like? And anyway, the fact that she has to reiterate it, tells me that she clearly doesn't. Love is more what you do than what you say...that's common knowledge. And she is doing nothing but proving to me that she has very low regard for me, indeed. the minute I show weakness she pounces like a lion out of a cage. And now her sister and family have stopped speaking to me since I put in the report? I find that really weird...since they should be ignoring her if anything, on learning about the report. And not only that, but in the time since I put in the report, her deranged boyfriend proposed and married her. Again, at a time he should be running for the hills because it has been revealed that his girlfriend is a child beater, he decides to marry her. I have zero doubt that this was done by both of them to further invade my boundaries, and doubt my own intelligence. I've been seriously contemplating suicide, as I genuinely don't want to call these people 'family' any more. Because they are not, and they never will be again.

The price to keeping your bed

              

I miss Paula. Paula was the key worker I had a few months ago. She was one of the only female key workers, and she worked part time. It may have been all that time off that made her so joyous, and happy to be at work, or she could just be that kind of person. Every time she was in, she'd usher me into the key working room and we'd have a natter for a good half an hour. Sometimes we'd go over time, and a 10 minute catch up, would turn into an hour of Paula whaling with laughter as I brought a satirical spin to the randomness of my life. At the time I took the whole thing for granted, as far as I was concerned I finally 'clicked' with a key worker, and that's just the way it should be (I've literally sieved through all the key workers, dissatisfied with all of them). This, as far as I was concerned, was and should be normal. She never judged me for the situation I was in, and just took the time out to get to know me, over sticking to a strict set of objectives I had to tick off. In the time she was key working with me I managed to get a job, nail the interview, and go about my life with the reassurance in my mind that a familiar, kind face would be in that depressing place. She was like a diamond in a sea of shit. She'd whizz around the place like a silk scarf wearing sugar plum fairy, smiling, laughing and sprinkling her good vibes everywhere she went. Sadly, she's been gone now for several months, and I'm really feeling the loss. 

I thought my new key worker would be an extension of her, unfortunately, he's just another person who hates his job, and would rather be at home...or hiding behind the dustbin...anywhere but stuck in a room with me. I was talking to him the last day we had a key working session, and I spotted him grinding his teeth as I blathered on about something trivial Paula would've found hilarious. It was after the fifth or sixth week with this guy that my mood took a nosedive. My motivation went way down, and suddenly the prospect of being as productive as I was before went from climbing a hill, to climbing a mountain. This guy, like most key workers, sticks to the status quo, like barnacles stick to the underside of a boat, unmoving and unapologetic about his hard-hearted approach. I mean I can understand if I was strung out on heroine, and need a bit of an iron fist to keep me in order, but I'm clean, I'm not a threat to society, and I'm an intelligent sentient being. However, as hard as I try to explain this to some of these guys...the more I feel like I'm talking to a bunch of Walter Mittys. It's like they are there, and yet they are completely absent all at once. I genuinely don't think they understand the gravity of the situation all of us are in. They simply can't appreciate the suffering that is involved in living in one of these places, and instead of giving us much needed consideration and understanding, we are met with stone cold faces. Then, when I confront them about their off putting attitude, they throw about the word 'boundaries' like there's no tomorrow. I am sick of that excuse. Paula had to abide by the same rules, and yet she was still a joy to be around. You can set a boundary with a hedge not a fucking 5 ft high brick wall! Most of these key workers have a 'mightier than thou' attitude towards its residents. As I speak 'Dozy Dave' is sitting behind me, out of his head on pills and heroin watching the 'Prince of Bel Air'...and he's on the 'clean floor'...and if I were any weaker, I'd probably be in the same situation. After all the abuse I have endured over the years, I should be an addition to the suicide statistics number. I still can't believe I was kicked out on the streets for eight months after defending myself against someone who called me a 'stupid cunt', and then carried on insisting I was one for half an hour. In fact I would've lost my mind entirely a long time ago if it were not for bucket loads of inner strength, and mental exercises. 

                              

Being in these conditions really is survival of the fittest. You can only survive in these places, if you have somewhere else to go! God help you if you don't. When a funk hits, it tends to hit hard. Any form of depression is amplified. You may wonder why? And would it not just be the same if I were in a normal one bed apartment, as opposed to within a homeless unit? Well, the answer is simply no. Firstly, even the 'nicest' and 'cleanest' of hostels (this is one of them), are still only temporary...one has no idea when they'll be out on their arse again, it could be in a weeks time, or in a months or in a years. I've learnt from past experiences that once I start to get cosy, I'm hoisted up, and moved on. You learn and adjust to the fact that so long as you're in the homeless system you are not to get cosy. I've gotten cosy in the past, only to be thrown out days later for 'disruptive behaviour'. Regardless of all that this is a 'six month bed', and if you go over that time then you are living in the knowledge that you have overstayed your welcome, and are treated like a nuisance. The staff expect you to be gone within six months, and if you (like most) are not treated favorably by landlords when they find out you are homeless, you are met with a scowl and a real feeling of unwelcomeness by the people who run this place. The vast majority of hostels also have a curfew which usually is about 11pm, and if you are not in by then, you are on the streets for the night! That is a very heavy threat to be living under, and makes the place you are living in all the more transient. Secondly, the rooms themselves are hardly what you'd call 'welcoming'. I've lived in three different homeless hostels for several months at a time, over the years, and all have been a horror to live in. The first 'six month bed' I was flung into was in a basement, and they covered up the modicum of light and air I would've received, by boarding it off, and creating a corridor. So, I spent five arduous months in a room which received no ventilation whatsoever, and as if that wasn't bad enough, unless I kept my curtains closed, I'd often be met with a blue pill-popping face glaring in at me from the corridor. I was awoken one particular morning with someone whispering 'sup of tea, love?' into my ear as I slept. I woke up and realised I had left my window open, and said resident had leaned in and was more or less whispering into my ear. There was an appalling sense of intrusion. Also, considering you had to be in doors by eleven o'clock, and you were sharing the building with a bunch of  ex 'jailbirds', it was not at all dissimilar to a prison. One of the acquaintances I came to know was a prostitute, and I'd more often than I'd like to admit see her pushing her bra up bracing herself to hit the streets. Another was caught on camera being 'sandwiched' by two fatsos around the corner from the hostel. As someone who had only kissed two guys by the age of 20, these are not the kind of people I want to interact with day after day. The whole experience was sickening and draining. I still can't believe I lived through that. In fact, I ended up being kicked out of the place because my room was too messy after the room check on one or two occasions. I ended up spending three months on the streets, where I developed a chronic eye condition known as 'visual snow' (it was freezing). How can anyone have the audacity to sit there and tell me that I should treat these places like I would a normal rented property, where I have my own privacy, independence, and dignity. Months melt into years in these places, because everyday you spend in these conditions is a living hell, particularly if you have nowhere else to call home and retreat to (like me). I'm sick of living in these places and having my elastic band stretched until it snaps. My elastic band snapped a long time ago. However, I somehow have to try and manage my life, regardless.

That's all for today, I'm off to meditate for half an hour, to stop myself from losing the plot.

An frivolous update

Not unlike the 'lucozade' ad, I think I've 'found my rhythm'. Yes, that ad lulls me into an 'I can do anything' trance, but it also speaks truth in volumes. I work two days a week now, and yes, sometimes one of my employers cancels on me for one reason or another, but at least I have something to schedule my week around. When I was in my teens and early twenties, it was the weekly family meal, and now that I can't see my family (due to various barring orders), and they can't visit me (no one's allowed visit me in the hostel) I turn to my work as a pivotal point in my week. As I whizz around Tuesday's luxurious apartment, cleaning every available surface, sometimes I reward myself by parking my big arse on the sofa, lying down, and having a little snooze. I somehow manage to convince myself that this is my own apartment, I'm not sure how I do it, but it's a little mind game I play on myself. While I'm hoovering, I pull a bit of a Julie Andrews, hopping and skipping around the various rooms like a ballerina, humming and singing, swirling and gliding. For that few hours I'm not a starving homeless artist; I'm the wife of some high flying solicitor, who's borderline obsessed with cleaning. I resent the fact that once the bins have been flung into the dustbin, I have to drag my arse back to a tiny cubicle, with an orange speckled linoleum floor, a piss colored wall (covered with what looks like piss stains...making it doubely pissey) and a window which may as well have been scraped out of the wall with a desert spoon (it's so disproportionate in comparison to the room itself). Usually, it's time to eat once I arrive back home, and after scoping my room out (for the five billionth time, each time hoping it will have somehow changed) I usually decide against food, since my environment doesn't exactly excite my appetite (or proper digestion for that matter). I usually just make a beeline for my bed and sleep (for lack of a preference).

All's not lost however, yes I do opt for falling into a state of unconsciousness, over actually keeping my eyes open in my room, but my days do currently lend themselves to at least one 'out-of-pissey-room' experience. The extra income I make feeds itself into activities such as: going to the gym, attending a monthly art class, and y'know being able to afford anything in Dublin (it may aswell be an activity in and of itself). I've run out of money at the end of the week on more than one occasion due to buying eleven 1.25 chocolate chip dairy milks, so the extra income does come in handy one way or another. What with my extra income and the commencement of lent, my piggy bank is having a right feast.

isn't this picture glorious? That pig is almost as fat as my mom's boyfriend, also not entirely dissimilar in personality

In other news, it is Saturday night, and I spent the entire day doing the following: sleeping (until five), waking up with a rumbling tummy, realized it was lent and I couldn't wolf a dairy milk down my pelican gullet, so I poured boiling water over some ravioli, drained it, ate it with ketchup, almost threw up, went back to bed for a further hour, tenaciously asked my tarot cards questions and prayed for enlightenment (it only served to cement the fact in my mind that I have no friends, and need a life), I then called the reception area (instead of walking down stairs and talking face-to-face) telling them that I wanted a wake up call the following morning, I then attempted to watch the remainder of the great gatsby in the living area with 'Dozy Dave' nodding off in the corner. It's now 1am and I'm writing this blog. I'd like to post a mid-writing selfie, but I don't think I will, I'm telling you what I'm doing, and I'm sure imaging it is fairly easy. I took a break there, and started watching Coldplay's new video. That's probably one of the only perks of living here...there must be 512 channels on this telly, including MTV, MTV Classic, and VH1, which just play music 24/7. I used to abuse the fact that I had access to so much 'fresh, new music'...but then I'd start to dance...and eyebrows would raise. I think it's easier to play it on the safe side, and stick to documentaries and soaps. Ugh, I just got a flashback of that time I hiked my joggers up to that area right under my boobs, and shook my booty thinking I was so funny. I mean, people were laughing, but their laughter soon turned sour once they realised I was mad as a march hare, and probably needed psychiatric help.



That's all for now!

I'll keep you all posted!

Musings on being without a home at Christmas

So, this is the third Christmas I've spent in a homeless hostel. Now, this is not so much to do with the fact that my family have abandoned me, but more so with the fact that everyone has a barring order against me, for example; I'm not allowed visit my grandparents (it's a long story...and it has little to do with me...don't ask). So, the closest I've gotten to my two little cousins in the past three years is a phone call at Christmas. I suppose it gives them an excuse to talk to me. That is the wonderful thing about Christmas after all; people put their grudges aside and decide to be nice, just for that one day. I only wish it was kept up the remainder of the year. Love isn't restricted to one day after all. My mother booked me into a hotel for Christmas, and was planning to leave me there, eating up her money, while she spent Christmas eve and day with her boyfriend. I walked out of the hotel, and returned her gifts. That, as far as I'm concerned, is not the purpose of Christmas. Basically, it's a celebration of Jesus Christ's birth, and traditionally it's a time when family and loved ones correlate and get together, yet somewhere along the way, people like my mother think booking her daughter into a cold hotel on Christmas day, and then pissing off is 'more than enough'. Her company is all I want and need at this time of year. So, I went back to the hostel, got my free dinner, watched the TV in the empty communal area, chatted to the staff, rang my dad, and as the song goes had myself a 'merry little christmas', well, as merry as is could be.

Yes, it's a pity that I can't invite anyone into my room to spend a few hours with me, and that feeling is intensified at this time of year, I suppose, and it is that thirst for human interaction that riles you right up when muscly Pavel at reception starts flexing his biceps behind the desk. I'm not the first woman who's admitted to wanting to drag him into their room, arms flailing, to have their wicked way.

And, that's another trend I've noticed, unrelated to Christmas, being in this situation riles men and women up in all the most unmentionable ways possible. There is an undeniable trend that runs through the veins of my fellow homeless compadres (apart from heroine), and that is a high level of promiscuity. It's obvious, in many ways, why this would be the case, yet, so many people are kicked on their arses by their parents or spouses without a seconds thought given to the fact that this person is inevitably going to seek comfort in the arms of a creepy Pavel or Stefan (who'd be more than happy to fake affection in order to satisfy their need). I've been homeless for three years, and innumerous men have picked up on my feelings of isolation and desperation, and tried very hard to take advantage of that. Thankfully, I am not a stranger to using the word 'fuck off' and can put it to constructive use where necessary. However, not everyone is that strong. I know girls, who've had dozens of men since entering these places. It's a high threshold environment, and it makes for 'high threshold' girlfriends. I know a woman who, out of desperation, initiated a relationship with an ex convict from Latvia, who took advantage of her warm heart, and drained her of the little energy she had for herself. He would follow her to the social welfare office and steal her money, he also broke both of her legs and jaw at one stage, all because she gave him her time. She already struggled with alcoholism, and he came along, and just made sure to break her entirely. It's a bit like Irish college, where they're all sheep shaggers, but you're so desperate that even farmer Joe starts to look appealing. Only instead of farmers, you have zimo heads, and instead of 'specky four eyes', you have an ex convicts from Poland (with two phones held together with duct tape). I suspect that many girls are off spending their Christmas with these duds, as most people end up losing their friends once they catch wind of their situation. Most people don't want any kind of association with a homeless friend, as it brings to head what a mess this person's life is. My friend *Jen literally dropped me like a hot plate once she discovered where I was. So, it's no wonder long term homeless people find comfort in other homeless people (who are also in dire straits). It's really quite nonsensical; two stressed out and exhausted individuals, stressing each other out even further. It starts out with imposing what you need on a person, on this struggling (probable criminal), and it ends in an inevitable disappointment when you realise there is nothing to them, but pain and grief. It's almost as if you're not high on drugs, you're high on delusions.

So this brings me back to the current moment, it's 1.30am and Christmas is officially over. I spent it like any other day, but I had some peace of mind, and got a free meal from the restaurant around the corner, and a big ole hamper of clothes and food. Coming from the people who have been looking out for my welfare for the past three years, it means more to me than a cold empty hotel room that's costing my mother a bomb. I got to talk to my family, and that means a lot to me, and tomorrow I'll ring those I didn't get a chance to ring today.

A stoner's cheap thrills

Well, it's been a while since I've updated my blog, partially because every day life here is fairly mundane, and equally as intolerable as it was the last time I reported on anything. My bed sit has felt more like a prison cell for the past year now...and that feeling only mounts with time. The floor is a highlighter shade of orange, which has a tendency to overwhelm me at the best of times. My lamp broke, so my only option is to light the Christmas lights, as the glare from the ceiling light is enough to blind the strongest of men. Since I have an eye condition, when exposed to bright lights I start seeing a lot of floaters and orbs of light in my field of vision. Therefore, the light switch remains untouched. I've also really stopped finding this whole homeless ordeal 'funny' or 'educational' in any way. It is degrading and disgusting, there are no two ways about it. It is a breeding ground for stoners and substance abusers with a chip on their shoulder, to let off steam at unsuspecting people. An 'apparently' friendly girl in here slowly but surely took a dislike to me. It started when I hogged two washing machines to do my washing, then I asked her if she had food (never ask a heavy girl for food...lesson learnt the hard way), and that was the breaking point for her. It was all down hill from then on. She very rudely called me a 'drain' to my face, exclaiming I 'drain the energy out of a room'. She didn't take too kindly to being told to 'piss off' after that, and started spreading rumors about me. Some that have made their way back to me is that I watch porn on the computer and that I cut my hair myself. She also told another resident that his face looked 'orange' to his face, and that she felt like getting a baby wipe and wiping it off for him. She claims that she just 'says it as it is'. Well, correct me if I'm wrong, but I think there are some things better left unsaid, and being rude is never necessary. I'm sure that without a shadow of a doubt her irrational and rude behaviour is down to her drug use. She's stoned all day long, and openly admits to it, then she walks into the communal area, and takes over. It's the social equivalent of giving your car keys to a monkey. Yes, she's highly functioning, but in all the worst ways possible. If the only way she can get through her life, is by intoxicating her body, than she has my pity. My mind boggles when I think of how she is passing all her exams, and working part time...while stoned. Although, in retrospect, she does function very well...she's well able to speak her mind, and work hard...but there's a trade off...and that is her sanity. She's turned into a crazy artist...well able to create wonderful things and achieve great outcomes, but from a very sad and corrupt place. I'm sick of this, and I'm sick of people like her in my life. I want out. Thank God the HAP scheme have raised the budget to 960 euro per month plus two months deposit. The rent is depressingly high in Dublin at present though, but I'm sure this will secure me somewhere...anywhere...that's not related to homelessness.